Monday, June 29, 2009
Advice on Advice
Do you think lying to your spouse – significant other – is a bad or a good idea?
I’ve been married long enough to be aware of the female “trap – test” questions:
“Do you think my boobs are too small?”
“Do you think my butt is too big?”
“Do you think my younger sister looks younger?”
But even when you are prepared, the timing will always get you!
…We were getting ready to go to a party when I entered the bathroom to comb the little hair I have left.
My wife was putting on makeup, when suddenly she turned around and asked:
“Do you think I am gaining weight?”
I had to stop to suppress the “Honey you look like a young and sexy Ms Piggy” thought.
I turned around and to my delight, without a pause, I heard my self saying:
“Honey, you look perfect to me!”
She gave me the “you passed the test” smile and at that moment I knew I would have a great evening :)
After 13 years of marriage and two pregnancies she looks amazing – even with the 20 pounds extra, but telling her the truth wouldn’t be a good idea.
Some how – and please correct me if I am wrong – I believe that she expects me not to tell her the truth – on that particular question - and to argument my thought; two days latter she announced me:
“I think I need to loose 10 pounds.”
This means she knew that she has gained 20!
(It also means the next couple of weeks the whole family would be on rabbit food diet – which I don’t like very much - but then again I need to loose some of my “love handles” as well :)
So do you still think, lying to your significant one is a good or a bad idea?
Exactly my point!
The complexity of human behavior and the complexity of human relations makes impossible to come up with universally applicable rules.
So, do you think tying up your lover and spanking them is a bad or a good idea?
Somebody out there would find it extremely pleasing and exciting but also somebody else would not.
So I always cringe when I see the big titles on the cover of some popular magazines:
“10 ways to spice up your love life!”
“20 ways to please your woman!”
“30 ways to improve your relationship!”
“Somebody out there is going to be in big trouble taking advice from a magazine!”
So here is my advice on “advice”:
Advices are not to be taken literally but rather inspirationally.
In other words never follow an advice because you trust the source but rather follow an advice because you trust yourself!
Easier to say than to do – true!
But it is better to make a mistake on your own than on somebody else’s advice :)