Monday, January 19, 2009
This picture is provided by: Derick
The poets and musicians have sung you.
Philosophers and psychologists have spent years studying your mystery.
Brave man have fought wars and lost their life for you.
Nothing, with maybe the exception of reason, defines us as human beings as love.
Nothing in the world we desire and search for more than love.
Even money, power and fame deep down are nothing but disguised ways we search for love and attention.
What else is more profound, powerful and magical?
What else is more noble, pure and sublime?
What else is more dysfunctional and ignorant?
What? You never heard of ignorant love?
There once was a very successful businessman that had a beautiful wife.
He lavished her with expensive things, jewelries and clothes.
She drove the most expensive luxury car and lived in the most beautiful mansion.
One day while they were out in town one young sales person – gay as could be if you ask me – complemented her on her elegance and beauty.
Her husband started the most embarrassing fight, accusing her of flirting with the young man. I found later the reason and I said to him “You should be proud you have such a beautiful wife” He said that she’s an ingrate tramp that tortures him with her constant flirting and that she has provoked the young man on purpose.
Later on, I found out that this man would not allow his wife to go to college or to get a job because was too afraid she would cheat on him.
The funny part is that years latter she caught him with another woman.
I call this story the “golden cage of love” or the ignorant love we call jealousy.
OK. There are some people out there that will argue that jealousy is not love.
That love is pure and unconditional and that there is not such a thing as ignorant love.
Let’s put a little crack in the colored glasses we see love with.
“IF” is the mark of the Devil.
“IF” like in “If you love me you would do … for me” or “If you love me you would give or buy me …” or “If you love me you wouldn’t ask me to…”
Let’s look through this little crack of “IF” next time when you talk to your relatives, family, friends, lover or spouse.
Pay attention to your pastor on how many times he tells you “If you love God…” or to the politicians on how many times tell you “If you love your country…”
“IF” is the mark of the Devil or if you are a non believer, the mark of ignore-ant love.
See how many times love comes to you with this mark and most important see how often you mark your love with it.
Sadly enough unconditional love is more rare than the air on the moon.
I can count few instances of total, absolute unconditional love: Jesus, Buddha, Gandhi, Mother Theresa and maybe a few more.
Even my mother loved me with that ignore-ant love. No woman I ever dated or married was ever good enough for her boy.
Even I, find myself pulling a fast “IF” with my children – it is so easy and so tempting.
Is it that my mother did not love me or that I don’t love my children?
I love my children more that life itself and that is exactly why ignorant love is so insidious, so dangerous.
Look at your life, at your past and present experiences.
How many times have you been hurt by an enemy or a stranger and how many times have you been hurt by the very people that were supposed to love you?
How many times have you hurt an enemy or stranger and how many times have you hurt the person you have loved the most?
We hurt the people we love because our ignorance not because we don’t love them enough.