I know there are many “spiritual” people that cannot excel in any other endeavors and have embraced spirituality as a way of showing their superiority to the rest of us.
Pretty much like the “hype” people driving Ferraris on the 405 at 9 in the morning.
But not all people are in the spirituality just for the ego trip. Some of us are genuinely seeking the truth of human existence and the wisdom of overcoming our flaws and limitations.
I hope you are one of the seekers and we can share our knowledge and our journey experiences.
There are many school of thought on how to improve one self and way too many “sales” people trying to sell you the secret to personal enlightenment.
You can spend as much time and money as you want but before you do that let me give you a piece of advice: save your time and money, none of them works.
Trust me I already spend a lot of time and money on that path.
The reason none of the methods work is that unless you do it yourself nobody can do it for you.
Nobody can eat for you, sleep for you, learn for you or become enlightened for you.
So they may say “Yes that’s true but we can sell you the secret on how to do it”
That’s not true either. First there is no “secret” second each individual has a different let’s call it “operating system”
What works for some people doesn’t work for others and even for people that are very compatible psychological the individual life experiences sets us apart.
Let me give you an example: The old “carrots” and “sticks” approach.
Some people react better to “rewards” and some people react better to “threats”
But even if you take two people, let’s say that react well to rewards, they will not react the same depending on the type of reward used
Some people love money and will do anything to get it.
Some people don’t put that much value on money and will not do much to get it.
Some people like emotional reward, praises and acknowledgement while others couldn’t care less what other people think of them.
The point I am trying to make here is that nobody has the “technical manual” of you.
If you want to know how to improve yourself, you have to write your own manual.
I’ve been working for some times with “affirmations”
An affirmation is a short sentence stating an improved mental state you want to achieve.
The secret of positive affirmations is to state the “causal” mode of the “result” you want to achieve.
For example, you will not use an affirmation like “I am slim and in good physical shape” if you want to lose weight.
Instead you will use “I am eating healthy and exercise regularly”
The reason you do that is
1) You cannot fix a symptom – being overweight is not a problem is the symptom
2) You can only fix the problem – eating badly and not exercising
3) By making the first affirmation you will only reinforce the bad habit because your affirmations don’t produce the desired results therefore you are telling yourself you cannot do it.
So you have to think of the area of your improvement in terms of “what can I do to get there”
Let’s do a little exercise. I don’t know what you want to accomplish so I chose an improvement task for you “You want to become mere successful with the ladies’
What is the programing you need to change, the affirmations you have to incorporate to your subconscious mind in order to be more successful in your romantic life?
Stop and write it down on a piece of paper.
If you wrote down things like
“Ladies find me irresistible / attractive”
“I am a chick magnet”
“I am always successful I picking up girls”
“I am good looking and desirable”
You can keep on watching the porn videos on the net.
If you wrote down things like
“I am confident”
“I am funny”
“I am relaxed in all circumstances”
“I am self-assured”
“I am always dressed impeccably”
“I am always clean and well groomed”
You know shit like that that women really like… then you have got it, you have mastered the art of positive affirmations.
Now, to the fun part.
Sit down in front of your computer and write down your list of positive affirmations.
Print it and take the printed page to the bathroom. Fold the paper once and put it next to your tooth brush.
Your mission, if you choose to accept it, every night after brushing your teeth you have to recite out loud the whole list looking into the mirror. It is OK to pick at the list but not OK to read it. You HAVE to look in the mirror.
Oh yes, just another minor thing I forgot to mention: You have to do this for at least 21 days. (For some reason the gurus have proclaimed that it takes 21 days for a habit to form)
And another thing: If you do it please let me know how it worked for you, will you?
Thank you and Namaste!