The vicious cycle of Life

Life is a learning experience.

Being aware of this fact will make your life much enjoyable and allow you to avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering.

How does the learning occur in your life?

Very simple; you get a problem, you find the correct solution, you get rewarded with pleasure.

OR

You have a problem, you don’t find the right answer, you get rewarded with pain then you get the same problem again.

This process can turn into a vicious cycle of pain and suffering you are not aware of the learning meaning of life. 

If you believe that life is about making money or getting laid or becoming famous etc you are wrong.

All of those scenarios are just the background on which the learning experience occurs.

Which means it is nothing wrong in having a successful life IF your life is full of rewards BUT it is very wrong to pay for that success in neverending pain and suffering.

So, going back to the learning process.

If you get a problem and solve it correctly you get a reward but also you get a new problem different from the first one.

Thye problems given are increasing in complexity and difficulty and meant to elevate your consciousness one step furder.

Also, the problem given is always in your range of abilities. You will never be given a problem you cannot solve.

The biggest problem with most of us is that we are not aware of this process of learning and its natural progression.

Many of us get stuck in a vicious cycle of repeating the same mistake again and again without realizing what is going on

Usually, we blame that reoccurrence on bad luck.

If let’s say we have a string of bad relationships we do not think “I’m making the same mistake again and again and to get out of this cycle of learning I have to find the right solution”

Instead, we persist in making the same mistake. 

We, in this particular scenario, believe that by choosing more carefully will find the right person next relationship.

The problem with that logic is that the very process of choosing is the cause of our problem.

Your ideal partner is not based on certain criteria you read in a Cosmopolitan or GQ magazine.

Your ideal partner is like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle that when found it will fit and complete you perfectly. Your soulmate can't be chosen by a rational mental process. 

If you want to find that soulmate you have to stop searching stop fighting and go with the flow.

You will attract that one special person because that person is your soulmate and naturally will fit you.

The problem with having a preset idea of what you want your partner to be will stop this very natural process and make you fail.

The Same scenario applies for anything else in life. You may have a string of bad job experiences. That is because you don’t allow you to connect to the right job for you. You are forcing the outcome thinking that you know better than God what you need.

Well, if you know it better how come you have this string of bad luck with your career?

It is God’s fault by not doing what you want right?

So, to summarize this little talk about lyfe’s vicious cycles:

If a certain occurrence seems to appear in your life, again and again, you are facing an unsolved problem.

You have to stop and figure out what you have been doing each time and consider that your solution is actually the very thing making you fail.

Usually, the mistake we make is forcing things and trying to control the universe instead of learning how to flow with the universe. And by universe I mean the situation you are in whatever your scenario may be/